“God, I see what you’re doing for others, and I want that for me.”

I had a very similar experience, except it killed my libido, so I chose to endure the suffering of Winter rather than live with emotional numbness.

Still, I strongly recommend it for people flirting with the abyss. It was life-changing for me while I was raising an autistic 2yo during the pandemic.

> I had a very similar experience, except it killed my libido

Did you, as well as the other people seconding this, have any libido left in the first place? I got on Sertraline because I was depressed, and it actually brought my libido back, by virtue of just bringing me back to a better emotional baseline.

All to say, if it had affected my libido, it'd have been a NOOP anyway in my case.

> All to say, if it had affected my libido, it'd have been a NOOP anyway in my case.

Wouldn't a "NOOP" be the opposite of a "Nope"?

Sorry for the pedantry, but this forum seems an appropriate place for this.

That's the point, killing an inexistent libido is a no-op

Ah, thanks for explaining!

Speaking from personal experience, people react to different SSRIs differently. I took a popular one that had significant side effects without a whole lot of benefit, and so I stopped it and didn't try anything else for 10 years. Then I spoke to a psychiatric nurse practitioner who suggested trying several others until we found something that worked for me. I had (incorrectly) assumed that if you had e.g. sexual side effects from one SSRI, that you'd have them for all. That is not the case.

I have switched to lamotrigin, it helps to balance mood as I had bad mood in months with less sunshine. Lamotrigin is not an antidepressant, previously it was used for epilepsy stabilisation but now it is prescribed for mood swings. (This is not a medical advice.)

It is still prescribed for epilepsy. I am actually hoping for some medication stories if anyone/someone they know has ADHD and epilepsy. It's for a juvenile, but your stories can be for any age. Or pointers to any resources about the combo.

I spent $300 on high lumen output light bulbs. 28 200W equivalent LED bulbs and 2 LED corn bulbs. Just a TON of light. Depending on severity either run it all day (late January and February tend to be the worst months), but even 10 minutes in the morning helps substantially. Just a lot of light. You can get hung up on high CRI and full spectrum but just do it badly first, then if it works worry about perfecting the setup. I just kept buying more bulbs and as I bought, I felt better and better.

Edit: this was the blog that gave me the idea, it comes up on hacker news a lot. https://www.benkuhn.net/lux/

Villazodone was created partly to address that. Once I switched to that, I had no libido-related issues again.

> except it killed my libido

Similar experience. Apparently pretty much ubiquitous with SSRIs

i'm sorry this happened to you, this was of the reasons i held off trying them for so long. ubiquitous indeed, also on this front I got lucky...

please people, take my post for what it is: anecdotal evidence. SSRIs can basically give you any possible side effect, including destroying your libido.

I don't relate at all to the latter part of your question, so by process of elimination it must be the former :)

Libido can be supplemented with Wellbutrin. Works great, even better than before.

I have no experience about antidepressants myself so please excuse my stupid question.

When I hear people say "it killed my libido" I always think about the fact that hyper-sexuality can be a trauma response, and if your body is healing the hyper-sexuality is most likely also reduced.

It's like when you have a disease and then read the side effects of a medication and notice that a lot of the side effects are basically also something that can happen when your overall condition is improving but still some people report them as adverse effects and then these are added as side effects to the package label.

For example you take antibiotics but bacteria can have toxins in their body, and when the bacteria disintegrate you get more sick from the released toxins. It's called the Herxheimer effect: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jarisch%E2%80%93Herxheimer_rea...

When I started methyl-B12 supplementation I also had inflammation in sinuses for weeks but it was just from my immune system starting up again and being able to attack long-standing inflammation. Someone else would've put "fever", "headache" and "stuffed nose" onto the side effects medication label of methyl-B12.

Stupid question - why do you keep suggesting that having a libido equals hypersexuality?

Is this your trauma speaking, or do you automatically associate any sexual needs with a pathology?

You've done it twice in this thread alone.

I didn't read their comment as insinuating libido is 1:1 to hyper-sexuality. I read it as: "consider if you have a libido, and depression, you may also be hyper sexually."

The situation is PersonA has determined they need an anti-depressant. So one thing is 'wrong.' It stands to reason that they may be using sex as a painkilling mechanism. After all, sex feels great. When the anti-depressant kicks in, the body may determine it doesn't have to use that painkilling method anymore, hence, the decreased libido. It doesn't mean having a libido is bad, it means that the person potentially was overdriving it.

Thanks for reframing it. That's what I was trying to say.

I'm not whom you asked. But it's a resonable association for some cases.

But I understand that it would have been better to ask and not associate because it's a fraction of the cases.

If I told you that I often have a fire in my fireplace, it would be incredibly strange if you suggested that pyromania can be a trauma response.

Either OP is confused about what libido means, or has some kind of heavy shame around sexuality.

That is not what this was. You have been firing your fireplace, now you put on a sweater and you suddenly don't want to fire so much. Maybe that's not bad, but a return to normal. That was the proposition. Is it true, who knows. Case by case question.

Yeah, I agree with your sentiment.

Sex is awesome and liberating! Should be anything but shamed.

It looks very interesting for integration tests

OP here - yes, this is my use case too: integration and regression testing, as well as providing learning environments. It makes working with larger datasets a breeze.

If possible could you share a repo/gist with a working docker example? I’m curious how the instant clone world work there.

We do this, preview deploys, and migration dry runs using Neon Postgres’s branching functionality - seems one benefit of that vs this is that it works even with active connections which is good for doing these things on live databases.

would this work inside test containers?

OP here - still have to try (generally operate on VM/bare metal level); but my understanding is that ioctl call would get passed to the underlying volume; i.e. you would have to mount volume

I use CREATE DATABASE dbname TEMPLATE template1; inside test containers. Have not tried this new method yet.

They also control their own hardware stack with TPUs.

Ragnarok Online private servers communities did pretty much the same for me. We were very die-hard on PHP, MySQL, C and ancient JS/CSS.

Try to reproduce it yourself, bro.

A lot of logistics, as mentioned. If you’d like to explain what’s in there beyond that, I’ll be glad to hear.

the novelty, you didn't do or think of that before. It was well executed and novelty.

You can't do it, you also didn't think of it before.

What value are you adding?

This isn't about me though, no point in making this personal. I'm just trying to understand what's interesting about this picture. You are saying that just because nobody took that particular combination before, it is enough of a reason, right?

What is interesting is the novelty on itself, but you already refused to understand that. You can't force someone to understand what they refuse because they think there's something else.

I hope so

I’ve been in the exact same boat for a decade. What helped me was working out; it’s pretty much a hobby now. Endorphins are a hell of a drug.

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