I join the III family this coming week. I am really interested in how well the updates are managed as the idea of cratering my car isn't something anyone is keen about.
Yeah, you can choose to postpone an update. The car may occasionally prompt you again, but I don't think it will force you to install it if you really don't want to. I've never postponed for more than a day or two though.
I have a Model 3 and so far haven't had any problems with updates. Installed the most recent one (2018.32.2) last night.
can you as an owner delay updates?