There's a lot of red flags - going to clubs, going to burning man, having an affair, renting a penthouse apartment in freaking Seattle.
I'm not passing judgement on those who wanna live life to the fullest, but the failure of achieving the white picketed fence type of life she originally wanted to live is totally on her and not on Microsoft at all.
There are always good reasons why people decide to do things the way they do. At some point in people's lives there come times where you have to make a decision and learn that there are consequences for it.
I think I didn't have much to compare to in my 20's (like social media posts) so I made plenty of bad decisions in my life. I was lucky to survive, learn, and calibrate my decision making process.
I'm glad you came out okay. It seems that the auther of this post may not learn or is possibly susceptible to being in this same situation again.
You may be forgetting that her job was to socialize with potential clients (developer evangelist). That's a pre-sales marketing job, completely different from the typical life of a developer at Microsoft.
The job means you have to go out most evenings to every possible hackathon or meetup and talk to everyone.
There's a lot of red flags - going to clubs, going to burning man, having an affair, renting a penthouse apartment in freaking Seattle.
I'm not passing judgement on those who wanna live life to the fullest, but the failure of achieving the white picketed fence type of life she originally wanted to live is totally on her and not on Microsoft at all.