> I feel like if you want to have a kid you have one and you deal with whatever adversity comes along.
The thing is, it's not only you who will be dealing with "whatever adversity comes along". Your child will also have to deal with it, and just because you're okay with dealing with it doesn't mean they will be too.
Forcing a child into existence when you think it's likely they will have a negative life, just because "you want to have a kid", is an incredibly selfish decision to make. We shouldn't encourage people to take a gamble on their potential children's lives just because they want a kid.
The thing is, it's not only you who will be dealing with "whatever adversity comes along". Your child will also have to deal with it, and just because you're okay with dealing with it doesn't mean they will be too.
Forcing a child into existence when you think it's likely they will have a negative life, just because "you want to have a kid", is an incredibly selfish decision to make. We shouldn't encourage people to take a gamble on their potential children's lives just because they want a kid.