Not sure if it's just age, or if it's truly a sign of times, but many of the friends I kept up with on social media -- and who are no longer active on social media (none of us are on Facebook) -- are nearly impossible to keep up with in real life either. It feels like digital communication has been completely abandoned by my social cohorts. And with no one wanting to talk on the phone... or message via texts, it's hard not to feel that the social media / digital lifestyle tribulations have negated the "keep in touch" proclivities of a certain subset of people.
I've been also thinking a lot that why it's so fricking hard nowadays to make phone calls to even people you think are your closest friends. It's like you need to schedule a time slot and then make the effort. What happened to "just called you to ask what's up"?
Sorry to be brutal, but this sounds like they weren't truly friends. I and many of my friends have given up on social media, and now have to make a conscious effort to ring each other and arrange dinners, activities, etc. If your "friends" aren't willing to do this... find better friends.
Yeah, your post seems mean-spirited and unhelpful.
I keep up as well as I can with a wide variety of people and some portion of people fall off the map. I keep up enough to know that many of them are in a spiral of isolation and despair that characterizes the present era. Sure, some might not have valued me personally but many "just can't" keep up with friendships generally and suffer from this.
