> In which case, make it a guy, and compliment the way their hair smells for extra weird and creepy.
In trying to be aware of gender issues, it seems you've (accidentally) stumbled into homophobia or mysandry. You're implying that sexualizing a man is "extra weird and creepy", something which many people would disagree with.
Simple rule: don't sexualize people in a professional setting, unless you are trying to market their sexuality.
The implication is still there that making it a guy is okay because sexualizing males is somehow materially different / more acceptable than sexualizing females. Perhaps it is with respect to the minority population of women in tech, but it is not more acceptable when we consider the implicit judgement of homoeroticism that makes this sexualization less damaging than the sexualization of a female.
I took the GP to mean "make it a guy, because singling out a women because of her sex in a mostly male environment is not cool". I may be wrong, but principle of charity and all that.
I'm definitely not trying to defend homophobia, totally agree with you on that.
In trying to be aware of gender issues, it seems you've (accidentally) stumbled into homophobia or mysandry. You're implying that sexualizing a man is "extra weird and creepy", something which many people would disagree with.
Simple rule: don't sexualize people in a professional setting, unless you are trying to market their sexuality.