Its not outrageous to believe it's possible we are actually first or the most advanced without evidence to refute it.
We currently have no evidence otherwise, and our best hopes (in my lifetime atleast) are finding ocean dwelling creatures on moons in the solar system that have no technology capable of reaching Earth.
It's just outrageous to think we are a unique possibility in the entire universe given how many stars and galaxies we have discovered.
I'm on the side that it's very odd to think we'd be the first, considering how short our existence is compared to dinosaurs. On the flipside, that same comparison means we may well be the most advanced.
The idea that an infinite universe means infinitely many advanced civilisations is appealing but I think your statement oversimplifies a complex issue.
Firstly, the universe's infinity is not a settled matter; current cosmology suggests it's vast but finite, but of course, there's no absolute answer to this (yet). I'd also look to the Drake Equation when considering this point, which illustrates the myriad factors and sheer number of uncertainties involved in the development of "advanced civilisations".
So, yeah: while advanced civilisations are certainly possible, they may not be as probable as you suggest, even in a universe brimming with stars and planets.
And if they are outside our light cone, they just as well might not exist. There is no-one and will never be anyone to hear that tree fall in the forest.
I don't understand. If one of the advanced civilizations out there, is so far away, the light emitted from them will never even catch up to and reach Earth, what does it matter that they exist?
We didn't even know how many stars had planets until not so long ago. The idea we're any good at detecting advanced civilisations in the visible universe is highly questionable.