I'm probably neurodiverse, so ymmv, but I really couldn't care much less about how people are doing; it's a very small part of my idea of a good conversation. What I want is to bounce ideas off of each other, and so the answer is no: I can't get the same experience or learning from just reading a book or being in a lecture - I want that back-and-forth where I'm the one talking about 50% of the time.