Its really weird that you decided to address my last comment more than my current comment, but whatever:
1. I brought up marriage (again, in my last comment), only to tie it to dating as an often expected outcome. In other words "these things apply to marriage, and since dating is usually used as a vehicle towards marriage, they thus apply to some degree to dating".
2. The reason dating is different is because there is an actual expectation of love, exclusivity, and longevity. There is absolutely no contract involved, thus these become the primary axis of the relationship. For example, note that if it is explicitly an open relationship, then the particular expectation of exclusivity disappears, in which case these actions would be legitimately considered "less scummy". With employment, there is a contract, and the other factors that you believe are influential to the relationship exist solely in your mind, and I will re-iterate, are in no way reciprocated by your employer. You will receive a bad surprise someday when you find out that the employer has no such notions of loyalty to you.
Finally, I am now really curious about your mindset. You seem incredibly insistent that employer-employee relationships are A LOT like dating. You believe that another company trying to hire you is like someone trying to steal a girlfriend. It only follows that you looking for other employment would be analogous to going on OKCupid behind her back? Is this how you feel as well? Do you think that employees should only try to find jobs after officially quitting and thus suffer possible windows of unemployment? Or is that the arbitrary point where the analogy ends in your mind?
"You will receive a bad surprise someday when you find out that the employer has no such notions of loyalty to you."
This is a very important point. I've seen lots of people who have worked for years at a company laid off with no notice. One day they come into work and hear: "Pack your personal stuff in this box, hand over your company ID, and your manager will escort you out of the building."
1. I brought up marriage (again, in my last comment), only to tie it to dating as an often expected outcome. In other words "these things apply to marriage, and since dating is usually used as a vehicle towards marriage, they thus apply to some degree to dating".
2. The reason dating is different is because there is an actual expectation of love, exclusivity, and longevity. There is absolutely no contract involved, thus these become the primary axis of the relationship. For example, note that if it is explicitly an open relationship, then the particular expectation of exclusivity disappears, in which case these actions would be legitimately considered "less scummy". With employment, there is a contract, and the other factors that you believe are influential to the relationship exist solely in your mind, and I will re-iterate, are in no way reciprocated by your employer. You will receive a bad surprise someday when you find out that the employer has no such notions of loyalty to you.
Finally, I am now really curious about your mindset. You seem incredibly insistent that employer-employee relationships are A LOT like dating. You believe that another company trying to hire you is like someone trying to steal a girlfriend. It only follows that you looking for other employment would be analogous to going on OKCupid behind her back? Is this how you feel as well? Do you think that employees should only try to find jobs after officially quitting and thus suffer possible windows of unemployment? Or is that the arbitrary point where the analogy ends in your mind?