I moved off of Google Calendar and Google Reader (and have never used GMail) for exactly these reasons several months ago. I do not want to be dependent on free services or ones that might go away. I know this could be true for any company - but at least for ones I am paying for I have support agreements.
Reader - Self-hosted Fever, although currently evaluating Tiny Tiny RSS. Checked out Newsblur a while back but felt like the interface was too busy/animated (same reason I left Reader). TTRSS feels a lot like Bloglines of old (which I loved but seemed to die on the vine)
Calendar - Bouncing between my email host's solution (pobox.com has a caldav/carddav server now) and iCloud, but considering setting up my own caldav/carddav server.
