(1) First of all, definitely see a doctor--depression, anxiety, and/or whatever else you've got can and should be treated.
There are some other things worth doing as well that may help alter your mental state for the better:
* Get exercise--the brain is part of the body and is affected by its state. Regular exercise can help clear out some of the cobwebs/gloom-and-doom, etc. Exercise connects us to the physical reality that we inhabit. The endorphins may give you a boost as well.
Additionally, if you go to a gym, you will interact with other people, which will likely help your mood and, perhaps, can lead to more tangible things, i.e. a job -- that's right, you can actually do social-networking away from a computer!
* Get some sunlight.
* Eat properly.
* Sleep regularly.
* Get out of the house during the day.
If you want to work on coding, go to a Starbucks or a library or a friend with spare office space or whathaveyou.
Just get the hell out of the house.
* Get a job--any job.
Even a temp job, if necessary--something to get you out of the house, doing something useful and getting compensated for it. A non-technical job might take some of the pressure off you, let you approach technical stuff in a more relaxed way, etc. The social aspect can be useful too. If you get bored, well, that'll give you an incentive to study-up so you can get a more interesting job. And, it'll give you something to talk to your wife about, will bring more money into your household, etc.
Also, you may find out about problems that need solving that can be turned into opportunities for consulting, etc. You might even be able to build a company based on solving such problems.
If things are really bad where you are, perhaps you can volunteer and get some of these benefits too.
There are some other things worth doing as well that may help alter your mental state for the better:
* Get exercise--the brain is part of the body and is affected by its state. Regular exercise can help clear out some of the cobwebs/gloom-and-doom, etc. Exercise connects us to the physical reality that we inhabit. The endorphins may give you a boost as well.
Additionally, if you go to a gym, you will interact with other people, which will likely help your mood and, perhaps, can lead to more tangible things, i.e. a job -- that's right, you can actually do social-networking away from a computer!
* Get some sunlight.
* Eat properly.
* Sleep regularly.
* Get out of the house during the day.
If you want to work on coding, go to a Starbucks or a library or a friend with spare office space or whathaveyou.
Just get the hell out of the house.
* Get a job--any job.
Even a temp job, if necessary--something to get you out of the house, doing something useful and getting compensated for it. A non-technical job might take some of the pressure off you, let you approach technical stuff in a more relaxed way, etc. The social aspect can be useful too. If you get bored, well, that'll give you an incentive to study-up so you can get a more interesting job. And, it'll give you something to talk to your wife about, will bring more money into your household, etc.
Also, you may find out about problems that need solving that can be turned into opportunities for consulting, etc. You might even be able to build a company based on solving such problems.
If things are really bad where you are, perhaps you can volunteer and get some of these benefits too.
Good luck.
And, as stated the top, see a doctor.