Yes, this is like telling a newlywed that s/he has a 50% chance to eventually get divorced. True for the population, irrelevant for the individual. When one has a more direct knowledge of the relevant factors, it's crazy to make a decision based solely on into what demographics one falls.
> Yes, this is like telling a newlywed that s/he has a 50% chance to eventually get divorced.
FWIW, I really dislike it when people perpetuate the myth that 50% of marriages end in divorce. We actually have no idea what the true percentage is, and I think they myth got started because people compare the annual marriage rate with the annual divorce rage.
Also true! There's a small literature in philosophy that worries about paradoxes in this area. But regardless of how that turns out, it seems safe to say that you shouldn't avoid getting married because of divorce demography, and you further shouldn't think of your marriage's chance of success in purely demographic terms. You instead need to pay attention to features on the ground like how you handle disagreements, your sex life, etc.
Yes and no. The way the rate is calculated is relative, so the people getting married in a given year and divorced in a given year aren't necessarily the same people.
> True for the population, irrelevant for the individual.
Not necessarily, because people are notoriously bad at evaluating themselves, and often tend to assume that statistics (especially troubling ones) don't apply to them for whatever reason. For the divorce statistic (which I understand is not necessarily accurate, but let's pretend it really is 50%), how many of the divorced couples previously thought the statistic was irrelevant for them, because they're "truly in love" or some other reason?
