Of course I'd want to on some level, but I'd also want to make sure that even if I helped I'd also be imparting the skills for them to accomplish things on their own.
I think I view enabling a child's independence as a parent's most important job, particularly in light of the often random and occasionally capricious nature of death.
That's a nice sentiment, but when your child's life is being systematically destroyed by pathologically perverted harassers then you just deal with the situation.
Your argument is a little like saying that the best time to teach first aid is when your kid has a gaping chest wound.
I think I view enabling a child's independence as a parent's most important job, particularly in light of the often random and occasionally capricious nature of death.