I think privilege is definitely meant to get peopled dander up so that they discuss it. Also, as I understand it, the privilege isn't being white, its the average benefit that being white will yield you
So, it gets white males upset, who have all the power. Not very constructive. Further the benefit is accrued through the actions of OTHER people. So who's the right one to educate?
I think the discussion is mostly confused and non-productive, when it resorts to using charged words over the correct ones, and seeks to insult those who admittedly wield more power.