Honestly, having worked as a developer for 15+ years and in IT (in other capacities) for 20+, I don't remember ever seeing (first hand) anything of this nature directed at any of the women I worked with. That's not to say it never happened, but I either didn't see it, or it was never mentioned to me.

And by and large, the male colleagues I've had over the years have never struck me as having any such attitudes towards female programmers. I guess that's part of why this whole notion seems so foreign to me.