I think OKCupid is a great service and I've heard of several people (like you) who've found success with it. My idea is meant to be another alternative - for people who haven't. Also, there is nothing wrong with being on multiple types of platforms if you're serious about finding someone - most people are.
In response to a few of your points:
1) It is very hard to fake a Facebook account. It's hard to get those 1000 friends and tacky drunk pictures from college.
2) OKCupid already does qualitative filtering ad nauseum - the efficacy is debatable but for someone who wants more objective filtering that they can understand and doesn't take a long time to implement, Circl.es could be better.
3) Rejection is part of the game, but it can be reduced by making sure that you're only considering people with whom you have a shot - allowing people to say "no" before you even see them, filtering both ways, and forcing people to make simple choices early on can reduce the pain.
To be honest, my biggest beef with OkCupid is the complexity. A new user coming the site can barely understand how it works - it takes time and a lot of work to use the system. The other day I had a friend join and I just typed okcupid.com/profile/his_name into my browser and pulled up his profile (I'm not a member of the site). He was horrified! I know they have privacy settings, but it takes time for new users to "get" this. Furthermore, I have personal doubts about whether personality matching really works - I think the depths of the human psyche might be a bit beyond computing.... but that's just my opinion.
Ultimately, OKCupid is a very cool site - many people love it. My site is different and, if it is successful, will have a different set of strengths in terms of matching people. If you weren't married I'd encourage you to at least Circl.es a trial run to see how different it is!
In response to a few of your points: 1) It is very hard to fake a Facebook account. It's hard to get those 1000 friends and tacky drunk pictures from college. 2) OKCupid already does qualitative filtering ad nauseum - the efficacy is debatable but for someone who wants more objective filtering that they can understand and doesn't take a long time to implement, Circl.es could be better. 3) Rejection is part of the game, but it can be reduced by making sure that you're only considering people with whom you have a shot - allowing people to say "no" before you even see them, filtering both ways, and forcing people to make simple choices early on can reduce the pain.
To be honest, my biggest beef with OkCupid is the complexity. A new user coming the site can barely understand how it works - it takes time and a lot of work to use the system. The other day I had a friend join and I just typed okcupid.com/profile/his_name into my browser and pulled up his profile (I'm not a member of the site). He was horrified! I know they have privacy settings, but it takes time for new users to "get" this. Furthermore, I have personal doubts about whether personality matching really works - I think the depths of the human psyche might be a bit beyond computing.... but that's just my opinion.
Ultimately, OKCupid is a very cool site - many people love it. My site is different and, if it is successful, will have a different set of strengths in terms of matching people. If you weren't married I'd encourage you to at least Circl.es a trial run to see how different it is!